8 thoughts on “Thinking About Sacrifice Borne Out Of Love And Obedience”
This one got me thinking that it is so true for things we are glad about, and things that we find overwhelmingly challenging. Not only can we thank God for all the goodness, but we can thank others for all the wonderful, as well as crummy, experiences that they put into our lives.
I’m not as gracious as you about the crummy experience-givers. I see so many women around me able to move past the hurt and leave behind the hurters and come out better for the experience and find peace. It seems like I’ll be forever stuck because I’ve made the choice to stay so my child will have one home with both parents under the same roof. Sorry — TMI — but your comment came in at exactly the same moment that I was contemplating what it is that all those women I spoke of who found peace have in common that I lack — they left the abusive (hate that word) relationship despite that they had children.
Dear Lisa, it sounds like you haven’t left physically, but you are seeing the door, and are sanely contemplating the consequences of your action. You wisely know that you have a choice. You are aware of some of the consequences. You are inspired by others who left overwhelmingly difficult relationships (how’s that for removing the blame-full word), so you know that recovery is possible.
It sounds like you did not see the interpretation of your haiku as I did. I hope you find this “Freudian slip” enlightening (lightening your load, and lighting your path). You deserve to be loved kindly, gently, consistently. May you find this in your current situation, so you won’t have to go elsewhere. Otherwise, you will continue to have a broken home, even while you stay. A home is broken when the parents are not working together to set an example of a healthy relationship. Or do you see it differently?
Sending hugs,
Grace
You are awesome for your thoughtfulness in encouraging me. I will take time to think about all you’ve said. In the meantime, I am thankful for my ability (and my husband’s willingness) to “pretend” really, really well so that our son truly has no clue — he just sees peaceful-looking parents. That’s what allows me to sleep soundly at night. That’s the plan I’m going with as long as there’s breath in my body 🙂 I think I mentioned to you once before that I admire your badge of maturity and now you have more insight into why I find my badge of maturity to be elusive: my own refusal to make the difficult and courageous choice that other women make, while at the same time being angry and jealous of those who do. Makes no sense whatsoever. Well, Grace may God bless you in every way and thanks for sending hugs. — Lisa
I continue to send to you my prayers, Lisa. I have been away from WordPress, tending my nearly-perpetual severe migraine headaches since early Sept. Before that, I was busy with exciting projects in and around my home, and fostering in-person social relationships.
Thanks for reconnecting with me.
Thank you Grace. And I’m praying away your dang headaches.
Lisa, you, your husband, and I share the value of a peaceful home environment.
I honor your difficult and courageous choice to stay where you are, and keep working on what you believe is best. That earns you a badge of maturity. You earned it when you recognized that things are not as you would like, and you could do something about it. Your ambivalence makes perfect sense, because of your fine-tuned awareness of the consequences of your choices.
I perceive that you might be seeing your choice as going or staying. Another way of viewing the situation is to brainstorm possibilities, like staying and spending more time away from home; staying and sleeping separately; staying and having meals separately; staying and … I didn’t leave until I saw no way to stay. I think that is the best way.
I hope you see yourself surrounded by blessings today. The challenges are what make us grow, like s**t, I mean plant food 🙂
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This one got me thinking that it is so true for things we are glad about, and things that we find overwhelmingly challenging. Not only can we thank God for all the goodness, but we can thank others for all the wonderful, as well as crummy, experiences that they put into our lives.
I’m not as gracious as you about the crummy experience-givers. I see so many women around me able to move past the hurt and leave behind the hurters and come out better for the experience and find peace. It seems like I’ll be forever stuck because I’ve made the choice to stay so my child will have one home with both parents under the same roof. Sorry — TMI — but your comment came in at exactly the same moment that I was contemplating what it is that all those women I spoke of who found peace have in common that I lack — they left the abusive (hate that word) relationship despite that they had children.
Dear Lisa, it sounds like you haven’t left physically, but you are seeing the door, and are sanely contemplating the consequences of your action. You wisely know that you have a choice. You are aware of some of the consequences. You are inspired by others who left overwhelmingly difficult relationships (how’s that for removing the blame-full word), so you know that recovery is possible.
It sounds like you did not see the interpretation of your haiku as I did. I hope you find this “Freudian slip” enlightening (lightening your load, and lighting your path). You deserve to be loved kindly, gently, consistently. May you find this in your current situation, so you won’t have to go elsewhere. Otherwise, you will continue to have a broken home, even while you stay. A home is broken when the parents are not working together to set an example of a healthy relationship. Or do you see it differently?
Sending hugs,
Grace
You are awesome for your thoughtfulness in encouraging me. I will take time to think about all you’ve said. In the meantime, I am thankful for my ability (and my husband’s willingness) to “pretend” really, really well so that our son truly has no clue — he just sees peaceful-looking parents. That’s what allows me to sleep soundly at night. That’s the plan I’m going with as long as there’s breath in my body 🙂 I think I mentioned to you once before that I admire your badge of maturity and now you have more insight into why I find my badge of maturity to be elusive: my own refusal to make the difficult and courageous choice that other women make, while at the same time being angry and jealous of those who do. Makes no sense whatsoever. Well, Grace may God bless you in every way and thanks for sending hugs. — Lisa
How have you been Grace?
I continue to send to you my prayers, Lisa. I have been away from WordPress, tending my nearly-perpetual severe migraine headaches since early Sept. Before that, I was busy with exciting projects in and around my home, and fostering in-person social relationships.
Thanks for reconnecting with me.
Thank you Grace. And I’m praying away your dang headaches.
Lisa, you, your husband, and I share the value of a peaceful home environment.
I honor your difficult and courageous choice to stay where you are, and keep working on what you believe is best. That earns you a badge of maturity. You earned it when you recognized that things are not as you would like, and you could do something about it. Your ambivalence makes perfect sense, because of your fine-tuned awareness of the consequences of your choices.
I perceive that you might be seeing your choice as going or staying. Another way of viewing the situation is to brainstorm possibilities, like staying and spending more time away from home; staying and sleeping separately; staying and having meals separately; staying and … I didn’t leave until I saw no way to stay. I think that is the best way.
I hope you see yourself surrounded by blessings today. The challenges are what make us grow, like s**t, I mean plant food 🙂
Hugs,
Grace